Monthly Archives: July 2017

When you miss your family but they are being jerks at the moment

Standard

Since Thanksgiving my relationship with my family has been a bit strenuous.  The main culprit was my sister, but because no family member publicly sided with me or even told her that it was not a way to deal with family members, I took it as they also shared her feelings towards my Significant Other (S.O.).  This feeling has caused me to distance myself from everyone.  If you have a relationship with my family, then I stay away from you.  The disadvantage is that most of my friends are somewhat connected to my family.  It is easier to hang out with acquaintances now, but sometimes they ask about my niece or my sister and I close up.  I do not know how to explain to people that I am ashamed of them at the moment.  I love them, but I want them far away from me.  I am also afraid that people will assume that I am a bad person because my family treats me badly.  Why would you treat someone dear to you badly unless they are bad people?  I miss my family, but for the moment we do not talk.  I am afraid that the disconnect that we are experiencing now will affect our friendship.  I wish I had a guide to navigate that situation.

Advertisements