Monthly Archives: April 2014

A Little about The Jubilant Sister

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Afro-style

I will start by briefly introducing myself.  Although my blog says posting from NY, USA,  I am not from this part of the globe. I am from the Caribbean. I grew up there then came to the USA to go to college.

I am a female who graduated from college not too long ago. I am a very simple person. If you would ask my friends they would probably say I am the most easy-going person; I try to not cause unnecessary problems. I also try to be as reliable as possible. When needed, I will go out of my way to help out a friend or a perfect stranger. I think I am a decent human being with my flaws and qualities. Now, I am working on my flaws and setting higher standard for myself.  I am also learning to love myself.

In my life, I have experienced terrible things but also amazing ones. However, the way my brain is wired, it seems that the terrible ones left me marked forever. I try to learn from them, and if possible to avoid repeating my mistakes or putting myself in a similar situation.

I am also learning to relax and let things to, and to accept that some things are out of my control; I can only do so much with the resources I have. It is such a hard concept for me to grasp.

To end on a happy thought, I am happily in a relationship of 2 years!!! I love my boyfriend so much!!

That is Frankleen for now. You will see her shape with every blog

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Failure of my first blog— Lack of true goals

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A couple of months ago I had started a blog titled “Frankleen has to talk”. I liked it. It was my first project. I had started well, I was trying to post once a week, and at first it was just fine. Then, I started having followers, and that panicked me. I was not sure why they were following me. Was it because they wanted more traffic on their page? Was it because my blog description interested them? Did they even read what I was writing?   Was I writing to their taste? Why weren’t they commenting? Why they only liked the poems I had copied from other known authors? Why they were not reacting to my writing? Too many questions….. In addition, one of my followers was one of my close friends when I was a teenager. She is going to depression and battling it as much as she can. But the fact that I know she is reading and that she could identify the people I was writing about was a drawback to my writing. I kept me from posting things from my heart. It also kept me from posting things about her, for she has hurt me in the past.

Another reason why my first blog failed was because  I had no clear goals for my blog. Like, why was I writing? Who was I writing for? What do I want to talk about?

I do not have all the answers to my questions, by I am more determined this time to have a successful blog experience. If people are reading , good. If not, since I am writing as a therapy for myself, and it is not mandatory for others to be following me then I will still enjoy writing. I will be like a public journal.

Now, I am starting that new blog. My actual goal is to talk about what has been eating me alive for years, what hurts me, upsets me or make me laugh. I will go in various topics as love, depression, gym, sadness, sex, being homesick, immigrant’s problems, race, sisterhood, culture, tv shows, travels, food and so on.

I will try to allocate time to write at least once a week. I need to learn how to manage my time

If anyone is reading/following my blog I strongly encourage you to comment. I would be more than happy to read and answer.Deep down, I know I would like for some people to interact with me, if they feel connected to me in some way shape or form.